how to use essential oils: 3 ways to use oils in your spiritual practice

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I bought my first set of essential oils about three years ago and I’ve been hooked ever since. I’m seeing them everywhere these days, so I thought today I’d do a post about how I personally use essential oils and how you can incorporate them into your spiritual practice!

The brand I currently use is Young Living, but you can use whatever brand speaks to you as long as you feel they’re safe. Please do your research, as there’s a huge lack of regulation in the essential oil industry and it’s very easy for brands to slip fillers or synthetic chemicals into their blends with no repercussions!

BIG OL’ DISCLAIMER: I’m not a doctor!! Please use essential oils at your own risk and consult a doctor before using, especially if you’re pregnant or nursing. As a rule, essential oils are for EXTERNAL USE ONLY. I don’t think I’m recommending anything crazy here, but know that what works for me may not work for you. Discontinue using essential oils if you notice any adverse reactions, and if you’re sensitive to smell or have sensitive skin, these might not be for you. Be safe, sunbeams!

image of an essential oil bottle on top of a notebook, surrounded by crystals and a tarot card case

1. Meditation and Tarot Readings

Essential oils can be a great help for getting you into a meditative state, especially if your mind is racing and you’re having a hard time relaxing (me, always.) I sort of pick and choose which ones to use depending on my mood. What I do is dab a drop of oil onto my palm and rub them together, then hold my hands over my nose and inhale deeply a few times. After a few moments, I’m much calmer and ready to meditate. I also like to diffuse essential oils near me while I’m meditating so I can continue to smell them.

I do the exact same thing before I do a tarot reading, but instead of calming oils, I tend to choose cleansing or clearing oils (Eucalyptus, palo santo, and spruce are my favorites for this). These help me focus, and having a recognizable scent really helps me tune out the outside world and get into the moment.

image of essential oil bottles and oracle cards

2. Magick

Essential oils can easily become a part of your spellwork or rituals. You can do the inhaling method I mentioned above as a way to prepare yourself for the spell or ritual, or use the oils as part of the magick itself. Use them to anoint a candle or add them to herbs that you’re burning depending on your intent. (Caution: oils are flammable, so please don’t leave them unattended while burning!) You can also make a blend to apply to your skin by diluting an essential oil with a carrier oil – try lavender for calming or sage for protection. Charge the mixture under the moon, and you’ve got a super simple yet powerful way to enchant yourself! You can also add a few drops to your bath to turn it into a magickal experience. I love essential oils for helping me focus on my intention and creating an ideal atmosphere for my rituals.

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3. Aromatherapy

Essential oils are amazing for supporting healthy bodily function. I bought blends specifically for nasal/sinus support because that’s the area I struggle with most, but there are SO many blends for different areas of the bod, like digestion, sleep, mood changes, and way more. They’re also great for balancing your emotions – I love lavender and eucalyptus to help me unwind, while fresh-smelling oils like lemon can help boost my mood. Essential oils can easily become part of a magickal self-care practice through diffusing, topical application, or adding them to your bath!

So those are the ways I use essential oils in my spiritual practice! Have you had any experience with essential oils? What are your favorite brands/uses? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to hear all about it!

beltane essential oil diffuser blend

Hey friends! Beltane is coming up and I personally am breathing a sigh of relief. Beltane signals the beginning of summer and here in Michigan, I’m hoping that means we’re done with the snow for good this season. (Seriously, can we be done? It’s killing me.)

Today I just wanted to share a quick little essential oil diffuser blend for Beltane! I really love this combo – bergamot has a sort of earthy citrus aroma that really balances out the lemon and lavender. Up top is a Pinterest-friendly image, and here is a smaller version in case you’d like to… I don’t know. But here it is anyway!

The little droplets symbolize the number of drops of each one to add to the mix! I hope you like it!

What smells are you diffusing/burning this time of year? What smell screams “summer” to you? I wish I could make a diffuser blend that smelled like fresh-cut grass and morning dew. Time to experiment…

my top 10 decks of 2018

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It’s not 2020 yet, so I’m still allowed to write 2018 reflection posts, right? That’s the rule?

This post is super late because all of January was spent trying to orchestrate an out-of-state move. That’s right, folks… I’m moving to Michigan! In two weeks! I’m so beyond excited, you have no idea. If you’re in the Grand Rapids area, hit me up and tell me where all the cool hangout spots are!

Honestly I’m skipping an overall 2018 reflection this year because… it totally blew. I don’t mean to be a downer but there was not much I enjoyed about 2018. 2019 is already off to a better start though (I got engaged!! I’m moving to Michigan!!) so I’m not dwelling on it.

What I do want to do, though, is give a shoutout to the cool decks I loved in 2018! These will be new decks that either came out in 2018 OR that had a Kickstarter in 2018, even if I didn’t receive them until early 2019. I know I haven’t used many of these decks for very long, but it’s less about my experiences with them and more about shouting out cool deck creators in the community.

Also, I just want to say, please don’t get caught up in the consumerism of witchcraft and divination if you don’t want to. You can read tarot with a deck you print off the Internet onto computer paper! You don’t need to spring for new decks as soon as they come out. Unless you want to and maybe have a hoarding problem. But I don’t know anyone like that, do you??? Certainly not… *shifty eyes*

Okay, here goes! Get ready for a ton of pictures…

1. the threads of fate oracle

Starting off strong because this was my favorite deck of 2018, hands down. I had been following Blaire and Brit on Instagram throughout the creation process and I so admire their dedication to quality on this one. These amazing folks put in so much time and effort and the end result is nothing short of stunning. (I also own, treasure, and recommend their Book of Days planner as well.)

This is a beautiful oracle deck with gold foil detail. It looks gorgeous in readings with the Starchild and Moonchild tarot decks, which, as you all probably know, are My Aesthetic to a T. But it also provides clear and wise readings all on its own. I love it more than I have room to say and if you don’t have it, you should get it!

2. the moonchild tarot

And on that note, The Moonchild Tarot! This was another strong fave of 2018. I had been waiting for this deck to become a reality for years, ever since buying the Starchild Tarot years ago. I might even go so far as to say I prefer this deck to the Starchild Tarot…

The colors are beautiful, the collage-style art is cool, and the symbolism is rich and detailed. I don’t have much to say that hasn’t already been said. Overall a gorgeous deck!

3. the illustrated herbiary oracle

This struck me as amazing because I would never have even thought to combine a book with an oracle deck, but here we are! This deck pops out of the back of The Illustrated Herbiary, which is a lovely book to help you understand some common witchy plant allies. Because you pop this out of the back of the book, the cardstock is a little flimsy, but I don’t mind. The deck backs and illustrations are simply lovely and this was such a cool and unexpected inclusion to The Illustrated Herbiary. Plus, the author Maia Toll is a wonderfully kind person and you should absolutely want to support her work!

4. the nomad tarot

The Nomad Tarot is not a new deck, but the second edition was successfully Kickstarted in 2018 so I have to spread the good news! I did an interview with the author, Jen Dranttel, here if you’d like to read. The deck has some beautiful natural imagery and I love the art style. It looks like the deck is sold out from the creator’s shop, but you can still find it at some third-party sellers I believe!

5. the visionary tarot

The Visionary Tarot was a deck I backed on Kickstarter without knowing too much about it (because I’m impulsive like that.) I was delighted with the final product when it arrived on my doorstep! This is a black-and-white deck with some really cool nautical/ocean-inspired imagery, so perfect for all you merpeople out there. The packaging was gorgeous with a really sturdy box and the cards are edged in silver! Sadly I don’t think the gorgeous deck cloth is available anymore, but you can still get the deck from the creator’s Etsy!

6. the lovely omens tarot

HELLO, what’s not to love about this deck?!?! This was another Kickstarter I backed last year. The amount of witchy femmes and cats alone is enough to make me want to treasure this forever, but on top of that it’s PINK! I’ve really loved this deck for lighthearted readings throughout the year. You can find it in the author’s Etsy!

7. the children of litha tarot

I just received this deck in January but I backed it on Kickstarter in 2018. This deck has a sturdy box, gold edging, beautiful art, AND a very diverse set of people and animals depicted in it. It’s very animal-focused but does have a fair amount of humans thrown in the mix. I can’t say enough good things about the Children of Litha tarot – it’s a stunning deck and I can’t wait to read with it more this year!

8. the open portals oracle deck & game

This is a new deck from James R. Eads, creator of my all-time favorite deck The Prisma Visions Tarot. (Note: my edition is the Darkside colorway with the limited Kickstarter edition red edging, but the regular deck is available in either white or Darkside with gold edging and is equally lovely.) This deck can be used as an oracle deck or a card game and has instructions for both. I’m in love with everything about it, from the packaging to the cardstock to the way the guides unfold. Sadly I have not yet played it as a card game, but I’m very interested in trying it!

honorable mentions

Okay, I didn’t buy 10 decks in 2018, so these are some that I don’t have in my collection (yet) but I still think they’re really cool and want to acknowledge them!

9. The Simple Tarot: Angie Green created this really cool deck for helping people learn or study the tarot. I had the opportunity to interview her on my blog this year which was a super memorable experience! Definitely check out this deck if you’re new to tarot or are looking for ways to further your study of the symbolism and imagery!

10. The Spirit Keeper’s Tarot: This deck is by the incredible Benebell Wen and is rich with symbolism, complete with a thorough Book of Maps to guide you through it. It sold out super fast but she’s working on a second edition right now. I didn’t manage to get my hands on it the first time around but am so looking forward to the new edition! She also chronicled the deck creation process on her blog in a totally honest way, which is a must-read if you’re thinking of creating your own deck someday.

And that’s my list! What decks did you love in 2018? Let me know in the comments, I want to check them out!!

how to become a witch: ideas for your year and a day

how to become a witch: ideas for your year and a day

I wrote a post a while ago that was my top 10 tips for a beginner witch, but since then I’ve gotten a lot of comments looking for a post that goes more into detail about HOW to start practicing witchcraft.

Some traditions of witchcraft will recommend that you spend a period of a year and a day studying the craft before you officially call yourself a witch. While I definitely am not one for rules of any kind (and I’m even less here for gatekeepers telling others when it’s okay to call themselves a witch or not), I personally did my own year and a day study and I found it to be a great way to explore the different facets of witchcraft without committing to anything. I had a real problem identifying as a “witch” at first because of all the connotations that come along with it, but during that yearlong journey I felt much more comfortable with it as I learned more and more about what it meant and where it came from!

But don’t be mistaken in thinking your year-and-a-day journey is meant to keep you away from the craft before you decide to join. On the contrary, it should be an intense, hands-on, headfirst dive into witchcraft and all it has to offer before you decide if it’s right for you or not. Today I’ve compiled a list of 8 ideas for your year-and-a-day journey to help you structure a lesson plan of sorts

DISCLAIMER: these are ideas for creating your own year-and-a-day study. If you’re interested in a particular tradition of Wicca or witchcraft, they will likely have their own lessons/tasks for you to complete in that time frame. These tips can be done alongside any of those traditions, as there’s no harm in learning more! 🙂

how to become a witch: ideas for your year and a day

1. read everything you can

When I was first starting out on my path, I took everything I read as the gospel truth. The longer I studied witchcraft, however, the more I realized that truth is so subjective. Even people who claim to have witchcraft in their blood can be wrong, and just because one group believes one thing doesn’t mean that belief works for you. I honestly recommend reading everything you can to introduce yourself to as many viewpoints as possible in order to help you uncover what beliefs resonate with you!

If you’re looking for some good books to start with, I have a list of resources available to you if you sign up for my newsletter 🙂 (ok I know I haven’t actually sent out a newsletter in forever BUT 2019 is gonna be my year, baby!)

2. go outside

Honestly, such a big part of witchcraft for me has been just connecting to nature. You can read all the books you want, but you’re missing out on a wealth of experiences if you never go outside! You don’t have to know every plant or meditate on a rock by the ocean for an hour every day, but taking walks, soaking up the sun, and quietly observing nature is key to feeling comfortable and secure in the world around you.

Witchcraft can feel overwhelming at first – there are so many plants to learn, herbs to use, crystals to memorize, and more. But you don’t have to learn it all at once (or ever!) The first step is going into your own backyard and wondering “huh, what kind of tree is that?” Once you look it up, that’s one plant you’re on the path to working with in your own magickal practice. Take it one step at a time, find out what’s going on in your natural surroundings, and you’ll be surprised how much you end up learning!

(I also recommend looking into your state’s Naturalist program if they have one, if nature is really your thing. I’m doing the Tennessee Naturalist Program right now and it’s a FANTASTIC resource. Most states have them I think, so check it out and sign up!)

how to become a witch: ideas for your year and a day

3. listen to your intuition

This one is hard, because we live in a culture that tells people they’re “crazy” for following their heart instead of their head. But how many times have you had a nagging feeling about something you ignored, only for it to be right later? We’re taught to look at the facts, which is of course important – our feelings are influenced by a lot of things and can certainly be wrong. But once you learn to differentiate your intuition from a fleeting feeling, you can tap into that inherent inner knowledge whenever you want!

I don’t have any good recommendations of how to do this other than to check back in with your feelings about a situation at different times. For example, if you have a bad feeling about a relationship, check in with yourself both when you’re with the person and when you’re not. If you feel great when you’re together and only anxious when you’re apart, could that just be separation anxiety? A lack of communication making you feel distant? Or if you have a sinking feeling even when you’re together, could something more be going on?

There are plenty of people who have written way more eloquently than I have on the subject, so I encourage you to find them 🙂

4. keep a journal

So important!! KEEP A JOURNAL!! This doesn’t have to be an official Book of Shadows by any means (but it can be if you want.) This doesn’t even have to be formal at all. Every time you have a magickal experience, listen to your intuition, draw a tarot card, or try a spell, WRITE ABOUT IT. Write what you did and how it made you feel, write what you think it means for you in the big picture, write anything you want – just please keep a record of it all. This will make your life so much easier in the long run!

Keeping a journal will help you see your own progression and identify what works for you, what you maybe can do differently, and what you flat-out don’t want in your practice. It will remind you of the good things magick has brought to your life when you’re feeling doubtful. Most of all, though, it will be fun to look back on later and see where you started out!

how to become a witch: ideas for your year and a day

5. learn new skills

Are you interested in runes? Give them a try! Always loved crystals? Learn more about them! You don’t have to master anything in particular during this year-and-a-day (in fact, I think it’s pretty rare that anyone could master ANYTHING in just a year) but you’ve gotta try things out in order to see if they work for you, and I mean that. I thought tarot was a bunch of hooey before I got my hands dirty and tried it out for myself, and now it’s a core part of my practice. You might surprise yourself – this is a time to try out everything with no pressure at all to pursue it long-term, but you might find some things you love and will continue to study in the future.

6. do some research

Ho boy, is this ever important. Friends, the history of witchcraft is laced with bullsh*t. There’s so much “fake news” out there, so many “ancient traditions” that actually have only been around for a few decades, so many “one true way” to do things that are actually totally arbitrary. PLEASE do your research. Read the classics, yes – read Buckland, read Valiente, read Starhawk, read them all. They are part of our history even if you don’t subscribe to Wicca or any particular tradition of witchcraft. But please know that these things were written in a different time and place, and many of them are either made up or based on false premises (or are simply outdated.)

If you read a text, please also Google it and see what other witches have to say about it. For example, I never would have known Silver Ravenwolf was problematic when starting out – it was only once I saw some critical interpretations of her work that I realized wow, that’s… not great. I still found value in her books and they certainly helped me along my path, but I can accept them for that while also rejecting the fact that she cites a lot of fake history, encourages problematic behaviors, and makes a lot of claims about “ALL witches” that certainly not all witches believe.

Many witchy books are rife with cultural appropriation, false history, or “facts” that simply aren’t true. It’s hard to know what to believe when starting out, but if something feels off to you, it probably is. Don’t accept anything as the gospel truth. It’s up to you to figure out what you believe and how you practice, not to be dictated it by someone else.

how to become a witch: ideas for your year and a day

7. try a spell

Why not! Spells and rituals are half the fun of witchcraft, right? Many witches try to spook newcomers by saying things like “oooooh you never know WHAT will happen when you perform a spell, be caaaareful, you must be a maaaaster” but that’s really not true for the most part. I mean, maybe don’t try summoning a demon or anything in your first week as a witch-in-training, but you’ll never become comfortable with practicing spells unless you try them for yourself.

Learn how to cast a circle if it will make you feel more secure – I did this at first but don’t anymore. Start small with mostly-foolproof things like making a witch jar, trying a glamour for confidence, or doing some bath magic (the witch community on Tumblr is a great resource for simple spells.)

Sure, your spell might backfire. It’s happened to me more than once. But nobody died and I learned from the experience. Don’t let the fear of failure keep you from ever really trying.

8. figure out what you believe

Last but not least, it’s time to put everything you learned together. Bring it back to that journal you’ve been keeping throughout the year (you DID keep one, right?) and start to pencil out what, exactly, you believe about magick and witchcraft. Do you believe in deities? What about astrology? Are crystals just pretty accessories for you, or a source of vibrational magick? Do you like working with herbs, or do you have a black thumb? Would you consider yourself a green witch, a hedgewitch, or none of the above? Do you think divination is magick or simply psychology? What might you like to learn more about in the future?

Know that your beliefs can and probably will change many times throughout your journey, and that’s okay. That’s called growth! Witchcraft isn’t static: it’s a moving, living thing. It’s within you and anyone who wants to take up the call. All you have to do is answer.

 

And that’s my list! I’m going to end this by saying that while a year is a good, long time to think about becoming a witch, you don’t have to wait a whole year if you don’t want to. If you’re on month three and realize holy crap, this is your CALLING, then so be it. The only requirement to being a witch is to decide you are a witch. And that’s that!

Do you have anything to add? Did you do a year-and-a-day study? Let me hear all about it in the comments!

my top 10 most-used tools for witchcraft

my top 10 most-used tools for witchcraft

Howdy, friends! A question I get asked a lot by baby witches is “what do I need to have on hand in order to be a witch?” The answer, of course, is: nothing at all! Witchcraft comes from within you, and you can do spells and rituals without a single prop.

That said, of course, there are a few tools I have found useful and enjoy using in my practice. These are some basic things that can be used in different combinations for whatever witchy thing you’re trying to do. If you do want to have some tools available to you, these are some good ones to keep on hand.

Now, I should mention that this is a list of MY top 10 tools for witchcraft. There are some notable things missing from this list, like an athame or a wand, that I just don’t use right now. It’s worth looking into what other tools are out there if you’re not sold on all of these (or if you just want to expand your options!)

For this post, I’m going to keep the headings general in order to explain why each thing is valuable to my practice, but then I’ll also be giving you the juicy scoop on what I specifically use.  Affiliate links might be used, which just means that if you purchase it through the link, I make a tiny commission at no extra cost to you! Here we go!

my top 10 most-used tools for witchcraft

1. tarot deck

Not every witch reads tarot, so this might not be for everyone, but tarot was what started me down this whole witchy journey so it will always have a place in my heart. I use tarot for divination, yes, but also for spellwork – the archetypes depicted in the cards help me with manifestation or focusing on specific themes I need help with.

My favorite: I truly can’t choose just one. The deck I’m most in tune with is the Prisma Visions Tarot, but I also adore the Moonchild Tarot, the Linestrider Tarot, and of course the Wild Unknown.

2. crystals

Crystals! What can I say? I’m a believer in the vibrational healing qualities of crystals. (If you want to learn more about this, I recommend the book Vibrational Medicine – it’s written in a very science-y way but is super informative.) Crystals can help amplify your intention in spellcraft, provide you with a little boost when you’re feeling down, and also look super pretty on your altar or as home decor. No shame in  liking them just for that!

My favorite: It’s hard! I’ve always been drawn to fluorite, but of course I love them all. My crystals have all been accumulated from several Etsy shops over the years, like this one, this one, and this one.

3. cleansing spray

I don’t like burning sage, so I use a room cleansing spray instead. I even use it on myself with a combination of crystals when I feel like I need to recharge. If you can’t burn things in your living space or just don’t like the smell of burning sage, a cleansing spray can do the exact same thing to clear the energy of a room.

My favorite: I actually make my own using essential oils! You can find the recipe in part one of Practical Magick for Modern Witches, but I might share it here in the future too.

my top 10 most-used tools for witchcraft

4. incense & incense holder

Okay, I’m going to admit: incense isn’t really a tool I use for witchcraft itself as much as something I use to set the mood. But that’s important, right? I love burning incense during rituals and tarot readings, and find it useful because it represents the elements of fire and air all at once. (I usually have a candle going for fire and use the incense to represent air, but you can kill two birds with one stone if you wanna!)

My favorite: I don’t know where my incense holder is from, but it’s nothing special. My favorite incense is the Triloka brand’s lavender incense. It smells so good and helps me sleep like a baby!

5. candles

Witches love candles! You knew this was going to be on this list. I don’t know what it is about candles, but they’re just the perfect all-purpose tool and often what I use for super quick spells or mini-rituals. I love having tons of candles on hand and on my altar.

My favorite: Honestly, I use super cheap white tealights for every single spell. I’m paranoid about re-using candles for other spells so once the spell or ritual is over, I just let the candle burn down completely. You can find some at the dollar store or get 72 for about $15 on Amazon. Not bad!

6. book of shadows

Your book of shadows is a place to record your witchy journey, whether that be spells you invent, keeping track of the moon, recipes you use for the Sabbats… what have you! Something similar is a grimoire, which is basically the same but less personal: a grimoire would be more like a reference book for your spells and rituals than a journal-like recording of your experiences.

I firmly believe that even if it’s messy and not at all #pinterestgoals, every witch should keep a grimoire or a book of shadows. Even though I do have one, I still forget to update it all the time and I’m always kicking myself when I can’t remember a spell I did or what ingredients I used in a magickal room spray. Write it all down!

My favorite: Yiiiikes, my book of shadows has historically been a mess. I started off in a postbound scrapbook but never used it because I was too intimidated, so I switched to a notebook which got too messy… Now I’m using a scrapbook for my “official” grimoire and then a different book as a “bullet book of shadows” which is like a bullet journal combined with a journal of my spiritual practice. (I’ll be sharing this in an upcoming post, so stay tuned!) The scrapbook is just a black one from Michael’s and the bullet journal is a black Lechtturm 1917 dot grid.

my top 10 most-used tools for witchcraft

7. essential oils

People have mixed feelings about essential oils, but I love them. Their earthy, natural scents are so calming, and they allow someone with a black thumb (like me) to work with plant and herb energies without needing to keep any plants alive.

My favorite: I’m not a distributor anymore, but I still love Young Living. They’re so transparent about what goes into their oils and I really love them as a company, as well. You’ll have to do some research to find the brand that’s right for you, but please be aware that cheap essential oils like the ones you find on Amazon or at the drugstore are full of chemical fillers or perfume oils and are NOT the real thing. It can be dangerous to use these on your skin! Essential oils can be expensive to produce and don’t cost the same from plant to plant, so if you see a store offering rose oil for the same price as lemon, run away!

8. reference books

Oh hi, my favorite part! I’m a book lover through and through. I feel like the act of reading books about witchcraft alone makes me feel connected to my practice and I try to make time to read and learn more on a regular basis. There’s always more to learn!

My favorites: Drawing Down the Moon by Margot Adler is essential reading for all witches, no matter your path. It gives you a look at the history of the modern witchcraft movement and debunks some common myths that are perpetuated in the community. I also recommend The Black Toad by Gemma Gary for some Cornish folk magic, To Walk a Pagan Path by Alaric Albertsson for integrating your witchery into your daily life, and also weirdly Wicca: A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner by Scott Cunningham is one I keep going back to even though I wouldn’t identify as strictly Wiccan.

9. jars

Ah, jars. Jars are super versatile and useful. You can use them as containers to hold things, as makeshift candleholders, as altar decorations, or in spellwork (protection jars are my favorite thing to make when I move into a new place!) It helps to keep a few empty jars on hand for when you’re in a pinch.

My favorites: I ended up finding some jars at the grocery store when I was making infused alcohol a few years ago, so these are the ones I currently have on hand. However, this is a great opportunity to recycle! If your jam has expired, clean out the jar and use that. It’s fun to have a variety of jars of all shapes and sizes to use for everything!

10. dried herbs and spices

By this I don’t mean the fancy bundles of dried herbs you see hanging in witch cottages in the movies (although would I like to have that? very much yes.) I mean literally the kind of dried herbs you find in the spice aisle to put in soup or whatever. These can also be used in spellcraft! Things like rosemary, sage, cinnamon, garlic, parsley, and basil are all common spices with powerful magickal correspondences. Having a well-stocked spice cabinet is a great way to make sure you always have some witchy tools on hand while also making the most flavorful stews you ever did try.

My favorites: I don’t have favorites, I literally just buy the cheapest thing at the grocery store. That’s it!

So that’s my list! I hope you found something useful here (and maybe discovered that you already have some powerful tools at your disposal!) Are there any other posts you’d like to see, for beginner witches or otherwise? Let me know! I’m on a writing kick this week and I’m excited to bring you more posts soon! <3

the simple tarot: an interview with angie green

the simple tarot: an interview with angie green

Hi friends! I have something really exciting to share with you today. Angie Green, creator of The Simple Tarot, was kind enough to chat with me about her upcoming deck!

If you haven’t heard of The Simple Tarot, allow me to share it with you: it’s a truly genius deck to help you learn the tarot. The card designs are (you guessed it) simple, with the card meanings on each card to help you learn. But that’s not all – while lots of decks have keywords on each card, this is the only one I’ve seen that also breaks down the imagery on each card to explain WHY those meanings exist. I can’t tell you how helpful that is in helping you not only remember the traditional meanings, but tap into your intuition about other meanings you associate with those common symbols.

The deck is currently on Kickstarter until October 31st and I highly recommend it for beginners and advanced practitioners alike – it’s a great way to brush up on your tarot studies and maybe learn a few meanings you wouldn’t have thought of! Back it, then read all about the thought process behind the deck’s creation. Without further ado, here is my interview with Angie!

the simple tarot: an interview with angie green

What was your inspiration for the Simple Tarot?

I picked up my first tarot deck decades ago, but struggled to remember and relate to the cards. About 5 years ago, I was re-introduced to them on a date, where I was shown the logic and patterns behind the cards.

Shortly after, I began a blog (called Learn Tarot With Me) to document my journey of learning the cards. This blog transformed from a personal project to a business (now called The Simple Tarot) where I create resources and tools for other tarot lovers.

Creating this deck has been on my “things I really should do” list for years, but I absolutely dreaded taking on a project this big. I knew my customers and audience wanted and needed it, but I did everything I could to avoid starting. My fears and ego got the better of me.

But once I committed to it and focused on serving others, it came together with such ease. I went from designing the first card to holding a draft prototype of the entire deck, book, and package in my hand within 7 weeks. The images, design, and decisions just flowed out of me. I created the deck that I wish had been around when I was just starting to learn tarot.

What does your own spiritual practice look like?

I’m a rather hardcore atheist and I was raised without religion, so I struggle with the concept of spirituality. When it comes down to it, though, my spirituality is woven into my daily life and is deeply personal.

Professionally and creatively, I’m a writer, an artist, and a maker of things, and I see my purpose as serving both the work itself and the people who it touches. As a practice, this means every day I confront a blank page with faith and belief, and every day the Universe provides.
the simple tarot: an interview with angie green

What drew you to tarot as a tool?

I re-discovered tarot at a time in my life when I needed guidance and some hard truths told. I continue to be impressed with the cards’ abilities to call me on my own bullshit without fail. (Not that I always listen, of course!)

Personally, I use tarot for creativity, problem-solving, and as DIY therapy. I don’t use it for divination, but I respect people who do. I love that tarot can be read in so many ways and meet so many different needs.

What would you love for people to know about this deck?

Tarot doesn’t have to be so hard! This deck was designed to get a tarot beginner reading the cards with confidence in only a few minutes and I’m secretly hoping it acts as a “gateway deck” into the world of tarot. Once someone gains a big of confidence and experience with The Simple Tarot Deck, it’ll make reading ANY Rider-Waite-Smith-based deck easier.

But it’s not just for beginners. We all have those days when we need a quick shot of advice, and this deck acts as a quick oracle deck or an easily-readable reminder when you’re having a brain-dead moment.

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As I mentioned, you can snag this deck on Kickstarter until October 31st. You can back the deck with keywords on each card, the deck without words on it, or both! Thank you so much to Angie for taking the time to chat with me, and best of luck to your Kickstarter campaign! <3 Don’t forget to like the Simple Tarot on Facebook and follow Angie on Instagram!

how to host a dumb supper for samhain

how to host a dumb supper for samhain

This lesson is an excerpt from The Modern Witch’s Guide to Samhain, the newest e-course from the Lavender + Lupine School of Magick! For $15, you can get 12 lessons like this that will help you celebrate Samhain in style. I hope you enjoy this preview of the course!

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A dumb supper is the tradition of hosting a dinner party where everyone must be silent the entire time. The idea is that, while the veil is thin, the spirits of the dead are better able to commune with the living—but only if you’re listening. A symbolic place is set for the spirits, either adorned with photos and mementos as an invitation for a specific loved one or left plain to be more general. Everyone then enjoys a meal together in silence.

The dumb supper is a way to honor the dead as well as to make room for any messages they might have for us. (I will mention, though, that although silence is encouraged, this will not be a pleasant experience for anyone who hates the sound of chewing. Soft, instrumental music may be played in the background to provide a bit of white noise if needed.)

If you’d like to host your own dumb supper this year, either solo or with a group, here are some ideas!

The Menu

What does one eat at a dumb supper? Of course any meal would do, but this is a great opportunity to be intentional and to choose relevant, symbolic foods or dishes. Foods associated with Samhain are always appropriate, of course, but you might want to consider taking that a step further and serving foods traditionally associated with the afterlife.

For example, pomegranates are heavily associated with the story of Persephone and the underworld, so those are a great thing to incorporate. Wine, mead, and olive oil have been common offerings to the dead throughout history, and wine and mead have the added benefit of putting us in a slightly hazy state, which some people find helps them tap into their magic or overcome their inhibitions. (Please imbibe responsibly – I certainly do not advocate for drunken spirit work!)

More ideas: cook dishes relevant to your cultural heritage, things your ancestors would have enjoyed when they were alive. Alternately, if you follow a particular historical tradition of witchcraft or Paganism, you can make dishes from that culture as well. See if there are any foods associated with your deities, if you have any. Craft a menu that’s meaningful to you and your guests. You might even want to make this a potluck and ask each person to bring a dish that’s relevant to them.

The Decor

The room and decor should be very dark. A black tablecloth is traditional, as is lighting the room with only candles. This is to help heighten your senses and make you more aware of sensations other than sight alone.

It’s ideal to set a place for each person as well as one extra for the spirits. If you could set an extra place for each person that will be present, that would be great, but most tables are not that big! While the dinner can be as formal or casual as you’d like it to be, it’s fun to dress things up and break out the fine china if you can – not to mention it’s more respectful to the dead. Some people like to drape the spirit chair in a black or white cloth as a symbolic gesture.

Typically the more black, the better. If you have black plates, napkins, and serving bowls that’s great. If not, you can decide whether to buy paper ones or if it’s more important to you to have a very formal vibe.

Since no one will be allowed to speak during the meal, plan in advance for your guests’ needs. Clearly label where the restrooms are if your guests are new to your home, and make sure each end of the table has salt and pepper shakers as well as any other garnishes the meal might need. No one will be able to ask if they need something passed, so this is important for the enjoyment of your guests!

Other than that, try to keep the decorations classy. While it’s a spooky time of year, it could be considered disrespectful to deck out your home with cartoony Halloween decorations when you’re expecting visitors from the other side.

The Dinner

Now all that’s left is to host the dinner! The idea is that no one speaks throughout the entire time they are in the dining room. I don’t think it’s cheating if you have a little huddle beforehand though, where you explain what’s happening, what sort of experiences to be aware of, and how the guests will be served. You might also want to begin by cleansing the energy of the room and/or casting a circle if that’s part of your practice.

No one should begin eating until everyone is served, including the spirit chair, and you might want to start with a silent prayer or message to the spirits, your deities, or the universe.

During the dinner, try to stay aware and anticipate the needs of your guests. Work out a signal for if someone needs a drink refill and have a clear signal for when the dinner is concluded.

After the meal, you can either silently disband or move to an adjoining room to contemplate the experience. You can use this time to share memories of your loved ones, lead the group in a ritual, or continue to commune with the spirits through methods such as divination.

I would recommend having everyone write down their experiences so they can continue looking back on this night and processing any messages they received in the days to come. Sometimes messages from the other side can be vague until it clicks into place later.

While there should be some strict enforcing of the no-talking rule, this is only a good time if everyone enjoys themselves. You can take some liberties with the way you do things in order to make yourself and your guests comfortable. Most importantly, though, understand that some of your guests might have an emotional reaction, whether it’s sadness, fear, joy, or something else entirely. Be prepared to hold space for them after and comfort them in whatever way they need.

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If you liked this lesson, consider picking up The Modern Witch’s Guide to Samhain for just $15! We’d love to have you in class! <3

autumn nature journaling

autumn nature journaling

This post is an excerpt from the Lavender and Lupine School of Magick’s newest course, A Modern Witch’s Guide to Mabon! For just $15, you can join us and learn all about the history of Mabon, its correspondences, its astrology, and fun exercises such as recipes, crafts, and grimoire prompts to help you celebrate. Mabon is my FAVORITE Sabbat, so this course was super fun to put together! I hope you enjoy this little lesson in nature journaling!

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Do you keep a nature journal? Fall is a perfect time to start, as the next few months will bring so many changes to the areas around your home. I’ve recently begun a naturalist class and have really enjoyed keeping a nature journal, so today I wanted to share a little about nature journaling, how to start one, and what it can do for you!

What Is a Nature Journal?

Nature journals have been used as tools for centuries. Researchers like Charles Darwin and Henry David Thoreau all kept nature journals to record what they found in the wild and what discoveries they made about their natural world. Once upon a time, a nature journal was a place to sketch wildlife or plants you found so you could look it up later. Now that we can have that information at our fingertips on our phones, however, the nature journal takes up a slightly different purpose.

Today’s naturalists keep nature journals to deepen their own powers of perception and to help them make sense of the natural world. A mushroom you draw one day might not have any significance to you yet, but once you discover what type of mushroom it is and what habitat it likes, you can determine something about the environment just by noting its presence. Taking the time to describe and sketch your surroundings helps you tune into your natural powers of observation and deepen your connection with the natural world.

autumn nature journaling

Getting Started

The first thing to do is to pick a book to use as your nature journal. Do you want it to be small enough to fit in a bag, or big enough that you have plenty of room to draw? My nature journal is about the size of a basic Moleskine or Leuchtturm 1917, but it’s by a popular brand called Rite in the Rain, which means the pages are waterproof. It’s hardcover, but you could also use spiral notebooks or soft-cover notebooks if you prefer. All of these are things to consider when choosing your book.

The next step is to develop a regular practice of going outside and recording what you see. When you’re first starting out, it helps to pick a small spot you can return to over and over again, such as a small area of your backyard or a patch of land at a local park that you enjoy. Observing the same area of land over time will make it easier for you to notice the subtle changes that happen over time, such as the growth and death of plants (and what plants they are), insects that frequent the area, the color of the grass, etc.

What to Record

Begin each entry in your nature journal with the date, time of day, and location of where you are. Without that information it’ll be hard to make much sense of your findings later! You should also record things like the weather, temperature, humidity levels (if possible), and the type of habitat you’re in (forest, meadow, river, etc.)

I’ve found it’s best to start small – focus on just one aspect of the area to draw. What you pick will depend on what’s important to you personally. Don’t worry about it if you’re not a great artist, either. I’m pretty atrocious, but my sketches will get better over time! The idea is to hone your own personal skills and connection with nature, it’s not a competition.

I really want to be able to identify the common local plants in my area, so I might pick a type of grass, flower, or mushroom (which I know is not technically a plant) that I see everywhere and sketch that. I’ll label everything I can, including any weird markings, areas the plant is damaged, coloring, and whether any insects are around it in great detail. I’ll then take a few moments to record my experience – the sounds I hear, scents I smell, whether there’s a breeze, or anything else. You can even get artsy here and write a poem or prose to document your time.

As I said, it’s okay if it’s not perfect. It’s okay if you feel silly or like you don’t know what you’re doing. Over time it will get easier, and you’ll find yourself able to identify wild species with ease!

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If you liked this lesson, there’s more where that came from! You can pick up The Modern Witch’s Guide to Mabon for just $15 🙂 I hope to see you there!

going vegetarian | my experience

Hi friends! I’m going to preface this post by saying that I literally don’t care what you eat. At all. There’s no one right diet for everyone. WHEW! I said it.

Now that we have that out of the way… In April of this year I went vegetarian after about a year or so of eating not much meat. I’ve never been a huge meat eater, and it slowly just started losing appeal for me until it made me feel kind of nauseous to eat it. So I have the benefit of not really enjoying meat, which made my transition to vegetarianism WAY easier, but I still encountered a lot of interesting issues that I thought I’d share with you today.

This isn’t going to be a preachy post. I debated even writing about this because the last thing I wanted was to come off like “I stopped eating meat so I’m better than you :>”. I don’t feel that way at all, and I also know that my diet isn’t perfect. Would it be better for animals and the environment if I went full vegan? Of course. Are there people who eat meat but still have a more sustainable diet than me? Ya. But neither of those are right for me at this point, much like vegetarianism might not be for you at this point and that’s okay!

I’m not going to write much about ethics or the meat industry or any of that stuff. Instead, I just wanted to share a few things about my experience transitioning from a meaty diet to mostly plants. If you’re trying to cut back on meat, want to go full veg, or are just curious about the process, this one’s for you!

to start, i recognize that privilege is a huge reason i was able to go vegetarian.

Produce is expensive, y’all! It doesn’t HAVE to be, but when you live in an expensive area, it certainly can. I’m an unmarried 20-something with a stable job who lives with her parents and doesn’t have to pay the rent. If I had a family to cook for, a less steady source of income, or more bills to pay, this process would have been a LOT harder.

I don’t have a lot of time to grocery shop, so I pay way too much money for Hungryroot, a meal subscription box. This is not sponsored in any way, but if you use my referral link we can both save some $$$ so click on that if you want to check it out! Hungryroot is vegan and low-calorie. Everything is pre-cut and pre-packaged so each meal takes under 10 minutes to cook, which fits with my super busy life. EVERYTHING is delicious, although I do think the amount of packaging involved is pretty wasteful – a lot of it is recyclable, but it would be better for the earth if less things were pre-packaged.

So anyway, I don’t have to think too hard about what I eat. But not everyone will have that same experience.

i mostly stopped eating meat because i stopped liking it

Although I’m happy that I’m cutting down on my carbon footprint at least a little by cutting out meat, the main reason I went vegetarian is that I started getting grossed out by eating meat. It doesn’t bother me when other people eat it around me, I just don’t want to eat it myself. It’s mostly a texture thing.

if you’re a picky eater, you’re going to have a bad time

Speaking of texture, I also hate tofu! YES, I know there is firm and soft tofu. YES, I have tried it all. YES, I still hate it. I have a very sensitive stomach and I get grossed out really easy and lose my appetite. Things that gross me out include every fake meat out there UNLESS it’s made of vegetables and not like, soy protein or whatever. I don’t even like saying the words “soy protein.” That said, I have found some delicious veggie burgers and veggie meatballs that I love, but they’re definitely not pretending to be meat. That’s the way I like it. (And if meat grosses me out, why would I want to eat something that resembles meat anyway?)

So that means 99% of my protein has to come from plant sources, which is hard. I definitely don’t get enough of it in my diet. I also hate tomatoes and bell peppers and onions (unless they’re cooked very soft), which means I pretty much can’t order anything at a restaurant without customizing it a ton.

that said, restaurant options are way easier than i expected

I really haven’t had a problem at all with ordering at restaurants. Almost everyplace has some kind of vegetarian option on the menu, and if they don’t, you can usually customize things pretty easily. For example, there’s a chicken veggie wrap I used to love at a restaurant down the street that I just order without chicken now. It’s still delicious! When in doubt, most places have salad. But you really do get sick of eating salad all the time, so I encourage you to think outside he box (and be nice to your waitstaff while requesting customizations! don’t be a jerk about it!)

it took my body some time to adjust

I went vegetarian the first week of April, and I would say it took that entire month for my body to adjust. It wasn’t anything major – since meat grossed me out at that point anyway, I didn’t have any strong meat cravings (except on my period, when I always crave super rare steak. am I a werewolf???) I did, however, suffer from what I can only describe as “gastrointestinal distress” resulting from cutting out meat cold-turkey, eating HELLA beans, and going ham on the cruciferous vegetables. My body also felt… weird. I don’t know how to explain it and I can’t pinpoint any specific symptoms, I just remember feeling kind of weird for a while. #helpful

it took an emotional toll, too

This was something I didn’t expect at all, but cutting out meat made me feel… sad. Sharing a meal with my family is something rooted deeply in my childhood, and suddenly I couldn’t do that anymore – I had to cook all my own food that no one else wanted to eat. It made me feel left out, and all of a sudden my go-to comfort recipes (chicken soup, stuffed peppers, golabki, lasagna) were off the table. Can I make veggie versions of all of these? Of course! But it’s not the same as that nostalgic taste I’ve known since I was a kid.

I’m honestly over it now and have found ways to modify my favorite recipes. But I felt a little lost and sad for probably an entire month or two while I broke those old habits and connections.

i have lost 0 pounds

I really thought cutting out meat would help me lose a little weight, but that didn’t happen. Turns out potato chips and pizza can be vegetarian, too, so just upping my veggie intake didn’t really do much for my waistline.

you’re going to have to make your own rules

Cutting out meat can be complicated. Does fish count? (I don’t personally have anything against eating fish and have done so once since going vegetarian, but it turns out fish grosses me out too so I don’t want to eat it unless it’s in tuna salad.) What about broth? Soooo many dishes are cooked in chicken broth. (For me, as long as it’s not actual animal flesh, I’m fine with eating it.) What about products like instant ramen that may contain traces of meat but aren’t actually meat? If a dish comes with meat on it, can you pick it off or do you need to order a whole new dish?

A lot of these are things you don’t think about until you’re in the situation. For example, I ordered a salad and requested no bacon but it still came with bacon bits on it. The bacon bits were small enough that the texture wouldn’t gross me out, but do I send it back because of the principle of the thing? I didn’t in the end, because it would have been wasteful to get rid of a perfectly good salad when I could just eat the bacon bits. But if I was super grossed out by bacon, it would have been a different story.

Likewise, if I order a dish that accidentally comes with meat on it, I’m fine with just eating around the meat. But a lot of people have a problem if meat even touches their food, so that would be a no-go for them. You’re going to have to figure out what your own personal rules are and how rigid (or not) they turn out to be.

So those are my main thoughts! Overall I’ve been vegetarian for almost 4 months now and I’ve never once looked back. I’m not saying I’ll never eat meat again, but right now I don’t feel a need to. I think the process would be harder if I missed or craved meat, but as I said before I’ve luckily been spared that because I don’t have any desire to eat it to begin with.

Would you ever go vegetarian? Have you tried, but went back to meat? I’d love to hear about your experience (and your best vegetarian recipes!)

life update | where i’ve been

Hi there, friends! If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know that I’ve been unusually inactive as of late. I thought today I’d write a little rambly post about where I’ve been, what’s been going on in my life, and where I hope to go from here!

To start, as you know I moved to Nashville in February and it’s been… a little rocky, to say the least. I found a great job when I first moved down here only to lose it a month later due to circumstances beyond my control. This knocked me down a few pegs and also left me in a tricky financial spot – I’m living with my parents for the moment so I didn’t have to worry about paying rent, but I couldn’t do much at all with no money coming in!

I finally found a new job on a temporary basis and fell in love with it. I also upped my freelance work to try and make up for the financial setback that came with not having a job for an entire month, but this turned out to be a terrible idea. I was exhausted, burned out, stressed, and had no energy whatsoever left over for any of my hobbies. I felt lost, like everything that made me “me” was gone and like I was a massive failure for not even being able to keep up with the things that made me happy. At the same time, though, I felt like my work gave me purpose and I was unwilling to give it up.

This month I finally put my workaholic self in her place and dropped 90% of my freelance writing. I’m still grappling with the ways in which capitalism has made me equate my worth with my level of productivity. I’m trying to embrace the downtime and tend to my own needs instead of forcing myself to constantly create output.

Last week, my temporary position turned into a full-time job, which makes me SO happy. This job is not what I went to school for nor is it something I would have ever thought I’d do, but it makes me feel so fulfilled and doesn’t drain me, so I still have energy to work on my passion projects (like this blog!) Sometimes you really just have to go with the flow and see where you end up.

I feel like I’ve been treading water for months and now, even though the shore is still so far away, I have hope for the first time in a long time that things are going to be okay. I’m writing a bunch of blog posts in advance so I can keep up with my weekly posting schedule, I’m working on a fantasy novel just for fun, I’m devoting more time to reading literature I admire so that I can become a better writer, and I’m making small steps towards breathing new life into my spiritual practice. I’m eating better than I have in a while (I actually went vegetarian in April – would you want to see a non-preachy blog post about that?) and I finally feel like I have some control instead of just getting swept along by the current.

I’m hoping I can move out of my parents’ house and into my own place before Samhain. I’m trying to make time for exercise again and I’m making a conscious effort to spend more time in nature, which always makes me feel better.

I’m not going to lie – there have been many “day ones” since coming to Nashville. So many times I promised myself things would be different, so many times I’ve made a “fresh start,” so many times I’ve failed over and over again at the same small goals. I have no guarantee that this time will be any different, but I feel like my improved circumstances are finally allowing me to give it a real try.

Summer is always a tough season for me, but fall is just around the corner – and isn’t fall when witches feel most alive, anyway? I’m looking forward to what the coming months have to bring, and I hope you’ll stick along for the ride <3

Are there any posts you’d like to see from me? What are you interested in learning more about? Leave me a comment, I’d love to hear your thoughts!